I’m guilty of being selfish more than I’d like to admit. It seems that I focus on myself a lot, and I know we can all be guilty of this. I’ve noticed it more in my daily life, and I’m trying to focus more on others.
It’s kind of funny, actually. When I was going through my bad relationship, I was always focused on “Christopher” (that’s not his name, but we’ll call him that from now on). Now that I’m mostly self-reliant and in a healthy relationship, I’m more apt to say ‘no’ to people. I can finally begin to describe how I’m feeling and whether I’m upset, among many things. Now, I’m not saying that focusing on yourself is a bad thing; in my case, it’s an amazing thing. I’m finally learning to stand up for myself and voice my opinions without fear of a negative consequence. I’ve still got a long way to go, but you’ve got to start somewhere, which brings me to the subject of this post.
I focus on myself a lot lately, which means sometimes I forget about Alex. Sometimes I forget that he works long hours in a hot data center. Sometimes I forget that he grew up in a different household with different traditions than I did. What I’m trying to say here is that sometimes I forget the small stuff. Like the way he unties his shoes when he comes home or the way he never unpacks right away after a vacation. Sometimes I forget that he didn’t really grow up drinking milk by itself, so he thinks it’s gross.
I’m going to try to focus on the little things in the coming days, just to see where it takes me. After all, Alex remembers so many more little things than I ever imagined he would. Sometimes it’s a song that reminds him of a memory, or sometimes it’s an action or a conversation from one of our first dates. Last night, I told him that I was craving Golden Oreos and milk. When he came home, I was surprised to find out that he had bought a package of Golden Oreos and a gallon of milk (he even remembered that my favorite milk was the fat free skim milk). I wasn’t expecting him to go out of his way to indulge my cravings, but he did.
Sometimes it’s the little things that get us through the day. Sometimes it’s the little things that you remember the best.
Today I challenge you to focus on the little things in your life. Do good for others, make someone smile, or even make time for yourself, and you will feel immense joy. Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses once in a while.
Don’t forget to smile today.